Ugh, moderation! What a bore! I want excitement and adventure, love and travel! I want to live in a movie and be beautiful and rarely have to eat or use the bathroom (anyone else ever notice that in movies?). When people ask me what I’ve been up to I want to have an answer! I’m tired of saying, “eh, not much.”
Resentment is an ugly feeling. It poisons you, breeding hate and anger. Do not assume resentment is necessary. When you feel resentful it means you feel someone is taking or has taken something from you. Figure out what that is and now you have something to work with. Until then you will behave as if you are a victim to your feelings, and no one wants that.
DE-clutter: per dictionary.com means “to remove mess or clutter”. This is what you generally think of, right. Getting rid of stuff. You might wonder why you avoid decluttering. It sounds like a good idea. Sounds easy enough. Kate says it’s good for you. Everyone who does it says they feel lighter and happier.
“Don’t take my wine away from me.” These were the defensive, totally unprompted, words of a client in her first session. I laughed and promised it was not my goal to take anything away from her. However, if I became concerned her wine was creating a problem, we were going to be having a discussion about it.
In decluttering your life, you will come across things you’ve spent money on that will be hard to let go of because of that money you spent. I came across this phrase recently, “The tyranny of sunk costs.” It’s meant to describe how we get more and more attached to things the more we spend. Then we become trapped by our stuff and our spent money.
